Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Driving and Dementia—When to Stop!

 As you know, one of the most difficult moments in the life of a caregiver dealing with Alzheimer's Disease (or another dementia) in a loved one, is the famous struggle over the car keys.

I went through this in tragi-comic terms as described in my popular book, Dementia Diary, A Caregiver's Journal. 

There is a better way.  Click the blog, "Dementia Today". It lays out a plan that I would have found helpful at the time. I recommend it to you. It lists the following warning signs of dangerous driving:
  • Difficulty navigating to familiar places
  • Inappropriate lane changing
  • Confusing the brake and gas pedals
  • Failing to observe traffic signals
  • Making slow or poor decisions
  • Hitting the curb while driving
  • Driving at an inappropriate speed (often too slow)
  • Becoming angry or confused while driving
But it goes further and describes various ways for a caregiver to handle the situation. Take a look.

Robert Tell, Author
Great Books—Thriller Books—Mystery Stories

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Advice for Caregivers: Dementia Behavior Problems

I recently discovered the Senior Living Blog and its important advice for dealing with dementia behavior. Here are the major topics it covers:

1. Aggressive Speech or Action
2. Confusion About Time or Place
3. Poor Judgment or Cognitive Problems

I experienced all of these issues when caring for my Mom as described with compassion and humor in my popular book, Dementia Diary, A Caregiver's Journal.

If you are dealing with any or all of the above, I recommend clicking on the Senior Living Blog for a helpful discussion of the do's and don'ts of dementia caeegiving.

Robert Tell, Author

Friday, December 9, 2016

More About Self-Driving Cars

This is my two year update on this important question for senior mobility. Two years is a long time in the auto industry and technology is developing at a much faster rate than anyone might have predicted.

Yes, I still drive the TLX and (occasionally) let it drive me. However, it is no longer so unique. Car manufacturer after car manufacturer has added this wonderful capability to many models, with the number increasing all the time. Just as examples, I can think of Subaru, Genesis, Mercedes, etc., etc.

The best thing to do is to consult the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety Ratings Page to look up the car and model you are shopping. And watch the news. I truly believe that totally self driving vehicles are coming soon.

Happy Holidays everyone!

Robert Tell, Author

Sunday, November 27, 2016

Memory Loss - A few Key Things to Remember (a repeat)

 Just a few tips for the alert caregiver to consider when observing memory loss in a loved one. This is a repeat of a 2008 post. It was very popular and it stimulated much activity on this blog:

* Be alert - document signs of memory loss and circumstances

* Notice if the memory loss is affecting activities of daily living such as planning, organizing and making decisions about every day functions.

* If there is a memory decline/loss be sure to be evaluated by physician

* Keep record of all medications including prescriptions, over the counter, herbs, and vitamins

* Understand the difference between delirium and dementia

* Learn to identify and manage stressful situations

These tips were provided by Jean Bandos, MSN, RN, GCNS-BC Research Director at "My Health Care Manager," a national company that helps seniors and their families manage the complexities of older adult life.

Robert Tell, Author
Dementia Diary, A Caregiver's Journal

Thursday, October 6, 2016

What is ElderAction?

 I recently discovered ElderAction and think you should know about it. Jim and Caroline James, the founders, are on a mission of great importance for seniors.

Here's what they say on their website:

"We’re Jim & Caroline and we’re based out of Raleigh, NC. About five years ago, we had to return to our hometown to care for our ailing parents. Little did we know how much we’d learn about the modern senior condition.  Since that first year of our return, we’ve been doing our best to fight for senior mental health and support. We hope you’ll join us in this!"

This looks to me like a significant effort on behalf of our elders. At the moment, ElderAction's focus is on identifying useful resources for highlighting the many issues of aging and eldercare. Check it out, but stay tuned for more. I suspect there will be lots of great information and advice coming from this new source.

Robert Tell, Author

Monday, August 1, 2016

What is "Love For The Elderly.org?"

This post is about a 16-year-old teenager named Jacob with a big heart and a great idea to help lonely nursing home residents and other seniors. Let him tell you about it: 

"While volunteering at my local nursing home, I saw many seniors experiencing loneliness and isolation. It was heartbreaking. I needed to change this, so I started to write anonymous letters of kindness. They were so well received that I decided to create website and social media platforms to get the word out about my cause.

"Now, three years later, the global nonprofit I created has impacted tens of thousands of seniors and has inspired people from over 50 countries and 6 continents. I expanded its website, Love for the Elderly.org, beyond anonymous letters to include a Senior Buddy pen-pal program, a Social Impact program, and more! Our newest program, SunshineBox, will launch this August to distribute gift boxes. These will be filled with fun things, like smiley face stress balls, neon yellow sunglasses, and similar items to put smiles on the recipients' faces!

"Our goal is to spread love to a group of people who are so deserving and precious in their final stage of life. If you'd like to help us to bring sunshine into their lives, visit youcaring.com/elderly  this August. Make a difference!"

If the next generation of kids has Jacob's compassion, initiative and caring spirit, we can feel good about the future of our Country. Don't you agree?

Robert Tell, Author

Tuesday, July 26, 2016

What is Lou Gehrig's (ALS) Disease?

Last year, a colleague and good friend succumbed to ALS* (AKA Lou Gehrig's Disease) after a long, courageous battle. He wasn't the first person I've known to have this terrible disease, and I often wondered what these people were feeling and thinking when first diagnosed, and during each stage of the downhill progression of the illness.

Recently, I came across a blog that tells the story of the journey with eloquence and compassion. Called Ray's Little Ride, Ray Spooner, a nurse midwife, entitles his story as a "Journey."

After diagnosis, Ray biked more than 3000 miles across the USA in a successful campaign to fund raise for ALS* research. The blog post referred to above was written in the later stages of the disease and, with a nurse's clinical perspective, shares with the reader his innermost thoughts and feelings. 

It is a journey of courage and bravery and I recommend the blog to my readers.

Robert Tell, Author

*According to the ALS Association, "ALS (Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis) is a neurodegenerative disease. This fatal disease affects the nerve cells (motor neurons) that control a person’s muscles. As the disease causes these motor neurons to deteriorate, the brain loses the ability to start and control voluntary muscle movement. This is why people with ALS often lose the ability to speak. The disease slowly paralyzes its victims eventually taking away the ability to breathe."