Monday, October 23, 2017

Do you exercise safely?

 You hear it all the time. Exercise, exercise,exercise. It's important for cardiac health, balance, strength maintenance, weight maintenance, and a variety of other health goals. And this advice applies to people of all ages, including folks over 60, although seniors who begin an exercise program should do it under a doctor's supervision, start slowly, and gradually increase.

But one thing I haven't seen before is advice regarding the safety of some exercises for older adults. So a recent article on the Silver Sneakers website was of special interest to me, and I think will be worth your time to review.

 Here's the link:   The 7 Worst Exercises for Older Adults

Happy push-ups!

 Robert Tell, Author

Sunday, October 22, 2017

When to move to a smaller home?

Into the lives of most older adults there comes a time when serious thought must be given to downsizing.

When that time comes, how does one decide where to live, what to keep and what to dump, what to do with the stuff being dumped (especially pricey and/or sentimental items), how to separate emotionally from beloved items accumulated over a lifetime, and how to ease the adjustment.

The other day, I found an excellent article addressing these issues on the Refin website. I sincerely recommend it to anyone contemplating such a transition. Here is the link:

Robert Tell, Author

Saturday, June 24, 2017

When Can You Buy Dementia Diary for Half-Price?


Make a note in your calendar. At one minute past midnight Pacific time on July 1, the special Smashwords Summer E-Book Promotion goes live. (That's 2 am Eastern Daylight Savings Time).  After 11:59 pm Pacific time on July 31, the sale ends.

My memoir, "Dementia Diary" is my best selling book at it's regular e-book price of $3.99. Now, ONLY for the month of July, and ONLY at Smashwords you can buy it for ONLY $2, a real 50% discount.  Here's the link: Dementia Diary Sale Page.

Caregivers everywhere give this book high marks for easing the burden of being a caregiver to a loved one with dementia, and for helping to relieve caregiver burnout. For over 15 years, I was my widowed Mom's caregiver as her mind and personality disappeared into the fog of dementia. My book tells the emotional reality of being a caregiver.

P.S. During this sale, my popular Harry Grouch Mystery Novels, my sci-fi, and my kids poetry books will also be available at Smashwords at discounts ranging from 75% to FREE.

Check this out by clicking here: Robert Tell's Smashwords Page.


Happy Reading!

 Robert Tell, Author

Monday, May 8, 2017

Is Your Mom/Dad/Spouse Ill—Or Just Being Difficult? (Encore)

(I've been asked by readers to post the following encore of an article I published here several years ago. I hope you find it to be helpful.)

I'm often asked about examples of challenging behaviors that I noticed in my mother—behaviors that helped me to finally realize she was sinking into dementia. The list below may help you to evaluate what is happening to your loved one.

For Mom, it started slowly with just a few of these behaviors attracting my attention. I just passed them off to normal aging. Gradually, it reached the tipping point where I could no longer ignore what was happening. There was an emergency a day.

I lived 1500 miles North of Mom, trying to run a business. Every day in the middle of some crisis at work came a phone call about some calamity in Florida. Sometimes from Mom, sometimes about Mom.

Up to 30% of my time was being consumed as a long distance caregiver and decision maker—often without the facts I needed to make correct, emotion free, objective decisions. Frequent air travel to check things out became another costly requirement. Here’s some of what I had to deal with:

• NUTRITION: She was not eating well. Things in her refrigerator were scary: ie: partly eaten fruits and cheeses with lots of mold.
• CLEANLINESS: Her house was dirty (she had been a meticulous housekeeper).
• HOUSEHOLD ORGANIZATION: There was clutter everywhere. This was not my mother!
• FIRE SAFETY: She was storing plastic bags in the oven. Then, forgetting, she was turning the oven on.
• REALITY ISSUES: Hallucinations about mice were occurring with increasing frequency.
• HEALTH ISSUES: Many health issues were threatening her well-being. Hospitalizations for pneumonia, arthritis, etc., were becoming more frequent.
• DRUG COMPLIANCE: She was non-compliant with medications with the result that her blood pressure was out of control and other health conditions were not receiving prescribed therapy.
• MEDICAL CARE: She changed doctors (and HMO's) several times each year. Continuity of care suffered and I could not build a useful relationship with her physicians.
• INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS: She was isolating herself—alienating friends and family with harsh, judgmental personality changes.
• FALLING: She fell in her room, sustained a serious head injury and no one found her for 2 days
• FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT: She was messing up her finances and making other poor judgments.
• HOUSING: She became a housing hopper: In a 2 year period she went from her Florida house to a Florida condo to a furnished condo in Michigan back to her Florida condo to senior apartment to assisted living in Florida back to assisted living in Michigan. She had trouble settling in anywhere.
• DRIVING: Her driving became a daily nightmare with multiple fender benders and traffic violations.

Sound familiar? Are any or all of these things happening to your mom, dad, spouse or significant other? I hope not, but if they are, it may be time to seek a professional geriatric evaluation.

Robert Tell
Author, "Dementia-Diary, A Caregiver's Journal"

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Driving and Dementia—When to Stop!

 As you know, one of the most difficult moments in the life of a caregiver dealing with Alzheimer's Disease (or another dementia) in a loved one, is the famous struggle over the car keys.

I went through this in tragi-comic terms as described in my popular book, Dementia Diary, A Caregiver's Journal. 

There is a better way.  Click the blog, "Dementia Today". It lays out a plan that I would have found helpful at the time. I recommend it to you. It lists the following warning signs of dangerous driving:
  • Difficulty navigating to familiar places
  • Inappropriate lane changing
  • Confusing the brake and gas pedals
  • Failing to observe traffic signals
  • Making slow or poor decisions
  • Hitting the curb while driving
  • Driving at an inappropriate speed (often too slow)
  • Becoming angry or confused while driving
But it goes further and describes various ways for a caregiver to handle the situation. Take a look.

Robert Tell, Author
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Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Advice for Caregivers: Dementia Behavior Problems

I recently discovered the Senior Living Blog and its important advice for dealing with dementia behavior. Here are the major topics it covers:

1. Aggressive Speech or Action
2. Confusion About Time or Place
3. Poor Judgment or Cognitive Problems

I experienced all of these issues when caring for my Mom as described with compassion and humor in my popular book, Dementia Diary, A Caregiver's Journal.

If you are dealing with any or all of the above, I recommend clicking on the Senior Living Blog for a helpful discussion of the do's and don'ts of dementia caeegiving.

Robert Tell, Author

Friday, December 9, 2016

Will Self-Driving Cars Enable Seniors to Keep Driving?

This is my latest update on this important question for senior mobility. Auto industry technology is developing at a much faster rate than anyone might have predicted. It gets closer to self-driving capability with every passing month.

So, I no longer drive the Acura TLX that I raved about in 2015 and I deleted my article about it from that time. Although I did enjoy leasing it, it is no longer unique. Car manufacturer after car manufacturer has added amazing technology to many models, with the number increasing all the time. Just as examples, I can think of Subaru, Genesis, Mercedes, etc., etc.

So my new automobile love is the Touring trim of a 2017 Subaru Outback which does everything the TLX did and then some. But there are many new choices today for someone interested in a vehicle with this kind of technology.

The best thing to do is to consult the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety Ratings Page to look up the car and model you are shopping. And watch the news. I truly believe that totally self driving vehicles are coming soon.

Maybe, just maybe, the day will come when the dreaded conversation about the car keys will no longer be necessary.

Robert Tell, Author